“What about my job?” He or she will say.
“What about it?” I will respond.
“Well, how’s it gonna go?” They will say.
“Well, how do you want it to go?”
I’m not being difficult. I genuinely want to find out – what does this person really want to know? Do they like their job and want to keep it? Or do they hate their job and want to get a new one?
What’s most interesting to me is not that people aren’t specific when they ask me a question. It’s that, generally, even by the time they’ve made an appointment with me, they haven’t given much thought to what they really want or need to know.
What they do know is that something is nagging at them, or that an uncomfortable situation has gotten to a point where they can’t ignore it anymore — and they need to do something about it. They need to get clear. Ironically, what people often need to get most clear about are the questions themselves.
What questions are trying to ask themselves in your life? What vague, still unexpressed feeling, is nagging at you? And how could you put that nagging feeling into words?
Questions I frequently recommend people ask me and – importantly -ask themselves, include:
- What is my best approach to this situation?
- What will be my likely experience if I do something?
- What will be the most likely outcome?
- What should I do more of in my life?
- What should I do less?
- What do I really want? and
- What do I really want to know?
When you ask yourself the right questions, you may discover you already know the answers.
Whether you like them or not, is another matter.