Jesica Hanley Vega

Sing Your Song


February 2015

Blue and Black? White and Gold?

blue black dress
Out beyond ideas of right and wrong, there is a field. I will meet you there. RUMI

Whether you see the dress as white and gold or blue and black, it’s still there.

Whether you are able to see it the way someone else does, it’s still there.

The dress simply is. The rest is interpretation.

With my clients, I frequently use the example of an optical illusion that shows either a duck or a rabbit, depending on how you look at it. The incident with the dress demonstrates the same principle.

What we see is merely that. What we see. Sometimes there is no use arguing for who’s right. Or who’s wrong. It can all be “true.”

Righteously insisting on our own perceptions of blue and black, white and gold, right and wrong, inevitably leads to unnecessary and harmful division.

The dress (and particularly the photograph of it) can be a metaphor for all such things about which people cannot reach agreement.

There is a dress. Due to the circumstances of a particular photograph, due to the tendency of different eyeballs to focus on different colors, it appears differently to different people. And yet it persists in being exactly what it is: just as we must persist in loving each other despite the optics which make us different.

Has a similar dress come between you and someone you love? Has a similar dress come between you and someone you don’t?

Do You Want To Evolve?

IMG_0964The field of coaching, guidance and personal development is a crowded one, full of promises and potential miracles. I get it. The best way to sell anything is to make it seem like an easy path to everything that people want.

But I’ve never been a fan of easy.

Rather than offering silver bullets, my work is about discovering and surpassing your own inner limits. It’s about distinguishing what holds you back and daring to go beyond it. It’s about recognizing some of your most deeply held beliefs and questioning whether they still serve you. It’s about discovering where you’re weak and choosing to become strong.

Doing readings with my clients enables me to address what lies beyond the surface of their stories and their circumstances. Recommending practices to my clients enables them to develop new habits that will help them see beyond as well. Loving my clients enables them to embrace those valuable parts of themselves they once relegated to the shadows.

I love tough, tenacious people. I love people who are so in love with something, so committed to it, that they are willing to let me be the grim reaper cutting down the limitations to which they are attached.

Clearly, my work is not for everybody.

But if you want to evolve, if you see a great reason to do so, a great purpose that will only be fulfilled once you are willing to look at yourself straight and give up your identity in favor of your soul, it may be for you.

Let me help you be the person you know you are inside.

Why Open Your Heart?

Nothing has convinced me more of the value of our work than the impact it has already had on my life.

Recently, Margo, Stephanie and I have been asking each other the same questions, and guiding each other through the same processes, we will offer participants during our upcoming retreat.

I’ve looked at my own experiences of fear versus love. I’ve asked myself “Who am I that is not my fears or my ego?” And I’ve discovered how following my heart opens up vistas and possibilities unimaginable to my mind.

Doing these practices with such gifted women has altered my understanding of the work I do and the difference it can make. It has also revealed to me how dramatically I cut myself off from relationships and possibilities when I let my mind do all my thinking for me.

One evening, in the midst of this process, I opened up to my husband in a way I rarely have. I’m 45 and, I told him, I’m noticing myself age. In our culture, there’s very little to “look forward to” as a woman who is not youthful, thin or sexy. And yet, I said, I feel these very things approaching: as if the woman I have been is going to be replaced by someone I don’t yet know.

It was surprising enough that I shared these thoughts. But what was even more surprising was how much more authentic and real he became in the following days. As if my own opened heart made it easier for him to explore his own.

It’s not always true that the people in our lives follow our lead as we grow and expand. But by taking the first steps, at least we give them the opportunity. By taking the risk to open our own hearts, we can show others the way and create a ripple effect that touches the entire world.

If that’s not a good enough reason to open your heart, I don’t know what is.

We have two spaces left for next week’s retreat. Is it your time to Come Home To Your Heart? Register online now or email for more information.

Do You Need A Break?

Discover the beauty of your own open heart.

As February 20 approaches, my partners and myself have been exploring who our upcoming retreat is really for. Is it for you?

  • Have you realized that life is not just gonna stop feeling stressful unless you make it?
  • Are you ready to take responsibility for  your own happiness?
  • Do you need to rediscover what you really want and who you really are?
  • Would you like a weekend solely for you? A weekend in which you can tend to your heart and be taken care of  by others?

If you answered yes, we invite you to join us for a weekend of love, laughter and discovery, February 20th – 22nd.

Because, the truth is…life doesn’t always slow down to give you a break. You are responsible for your own happiness. You do need a weekend away. And, with life moving as quickly as it does, it is possible to find yourself miles down a road with no idea how you got there.

Let us help remedy that.

Margo’s clients regularly tell her how much of a difference she makes: how spouse’s remark on new feelings of intimacy and children appreciate a new peacefulness at home. Stephanie’s clients feel seen for who they truly are and let go of old patterns. And my clients access a clarity and a peace they never imagined. Our work together can change your life.

Come Home To Your Heart for a new sense of Peace, Connection and Joy. Learn more at Retreats With Heart and consider coming home to your heart.

Making My Work More Accessible/Reducing My Rates


“What is my job on the planet?” is one question we might do well to ask ourselves over and over again. Otherwise, we may wind up doing somebody else’s job and not even know it. Jon Kabat Zinn, “Wherever You Go, There You Are.”

I often ask myself  “What is my job on the planet and how can I do it better?” and honestly, I don’t always have the answer.  But I do know this:

  • I have a great love for humanity & a great enthusiasm for the potential which lies inside each one of us.
  • I have a great  connection to the spirit and energy which surrounds and unites us all, and…
  • I have a gift for seeing and expressing things to people which they would not otherwise see.

It has often been a challenge to balance my drive to serve with the need to support myself and my family. And I’ve sensed that, too often, my rates have put my services out of reach. Therefore, in an effort to make my work more accessible, I am dramatically reducing my rates.

As of February 1, my new rate is $40/30 minutes and I will be available Wed & Thurs mornings between 9-11 a.m.

After all, I can’t be of service if I have no one to serve. Please don’t hesitate to make an appointment or look into a coaching package. My own path grows as I share it with you.

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